Thursday, January 26, 2012


Today is one of those perfect, gorgeous 80 degree winter days in Southern California. I'm settled into the couch, all the windows and doors open, Alice snoozing beside me. Charlie is next door, playing with his friend, Gigi.

It's been a while since I've posted. I keep meaning to. Each night around 5, I say to myself "after the kids are bathed and the kitchen is cleaned up, I'll blog". But by that time, Rich and I are down for the count with a glass of wine and some Daily Show. I'd rather catch up with Rich than blog . . . it's the cold hard truth.

But today, today I will catch you up on the happenings around here.

While Tom & Elaine were here, Katie's friend & photographer, Molly Williams, shot our family photos.

Here's a preview (more to follow in a separate post):
2012 Family Photo Shoot

All 4 of us have been spending a lot of time on our back patio. Which means that the Verizon dude gets our full attention when he's up doing his work. Seriously, we chatted with him for about 20 minutes.

Hey, Mr. Cable guy

And Charlie warned him not to fall in our pool. I'm pretty sure that's top on his safety list.

Hey, Mr. Cable guy

I've been pulling myself together a few days a week. Hair blow-dried, make-up on, clothes that have zippers and snaps. On this particular day, I met a friend & colleague for lunch then headed into my office to say hi.

Self Portrait

Alice keeps growing. And burping and farting. Seriously, the sounds that come out of her are not very ladylike.

mustard yellow

Little man is working on potty training. Or, more accurately, Mama is dragging him into the bathroom to pee every 30 minutes. So far, he can go an entire day dry in his big boy underwear. But watch out when he "go goes". You know what I mean. Poop-a-palooza around these parts. I've been cleaning with a lot of bleach.

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I'm trying to make sure I get one-on-one with Charlie. Because he's my boy, my "best friend" (as he told me yesterday), my first born. So there's been some park play.

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See that gorgeous sunset up above? The other night as Charlie & I were walking down the street, he looked at the setting sun and said "the light is falling on my head". I told him that we are lucky to see such beautiful sunsets. He closed his eyes and just let the light wash over him. I wish I could've frozen that moment, wrapped it up and given it to him in 20 years.

Rich has been the soothing "Alice rocker". She is getting fussy during the witching hours of 4 - 7. So there's a lot of this going on. (I love Rich in glasses. Damn.)

Rich and Alice

And while Charlie is at school and Rich is at work, Alice and I hang out and do this. Just lounging with our bellies out. (Well, just her belly out. I'll spare you the horrible mental image of me.)

Alice, 2 months old

That's all from the Phee front for now. I have some bottles to make, laundry to switch and music to listen to. Very busy day.


Alice, 2 months old

Baby girl is officially 2 months old as of Tuesday.

Alice month by month
I plan to take a photo of Alice wearing a similar outfit every month in this chair. It was Grandma Gert's Lazy-boy. And the sock monkey was a gift from Misty to Charlie 3 years ago.

She's smiling, eating Similac Sensitive formula, wearing 0 - 3 months (but that'll change soon) and size 2 diapers.

Growing girl.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

"that's what she said"

Rich's parents came to L.A. to meet their granddaughter. From the second they walked into the house, there was baby lovin' and Charlie chasing.

Omma and Papa's Visit

Omma and Papa's Visit

Omma and Papa's Visit

These photos were taken within the first moments of them meeting Alice.

This trip was full of long, lazy days, sitting in the sun. Helping Elaine get acquainted with her new iPad. Playing Matchbox cars (real toys) and Angry Birds (virtual toys) with Charlie. There was a whole lot of this going on -

Omma and Papa's Visit

and this -

Omma and Papa's Visit

Tom whipped through his list of projects in record time. He actually ran out of things to do at one point (which has never happened). My favorite project was the lift of Alice's dresser/changing table. I ordered a dresser just a wee too short for my 6'4" husband to comfortably change baby girl. Tom's solution: a custom pedestal box to attach to the bottom.

Omma and Papa's Visit

I love it.

Omma and Papa's Visit

This trip was also chocked full of laughter. Side splitting, I'm-going-to-pee-my-pants laughter. The running joke all week was "that's what she said". If Tom said, "the tube fit perfectly in the hole", one of us would have to say "that's what she said". On and on and on it went. Even when it didn't make sense ("I'm going out to the garage" . . . "that's what she said") we were all cracking up. I'm infamous for screwing up this joke, by the way.

I'm sure that many bottles of this helped the laughter -

Omma and Papa's Visit

Tom and Elaine also got up with Alice at night. I had my first full 8 hours of sleep since I was put on bedrest (October 25). But the mornings looked like this in Omma and Papa's bed -

Omma and Papa's Visit
I apologize for the creepy look on Charlie's face. It is what it is.

Thank you, Tom and Elaine, for a wonderful visit. Looking forward to the next one!

the Folks

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

5 weeks, 5 days

Alice had her 1 month doctor appointment today.

polka dots

Other than my standard hypochondriac self assuming she had pyloric stenosis, cross-eyes and possibly a skin disorder (of which she had none), the appointment went well.
polka dots

Alice Linda weighed in at 9 lbs, 1.5 oz. 21 inches long and a head circumference of 36.5 cm. She's on target and gaining weight like a champ.


I'm grateful for her health. And that she didn't have to endure any shots today.

happenings in the New Year

My 2012 goal of being present means I have to let go of messy house anxiety.

As you can see, I'm doing a good job of that. Laundry piles up, requiring an entire evening (and Real Housewives of Some Affluent Community marathon) to catch up. Hand smudges on the slider block my view of Charlie's bubble adventures.



But that's ok, because there has been a lot of lovin' going on.

kissie, kissie

Charlie Loves Alice

And trips to the park. Watching Charlie walk and play, especially at a slightly further distance from me now that he's older, reminds me of how mature and grown he is becoming.

a walk in the park

And how little Alice is.

hoot hoot
(Thank you, Lynnie, for the sweet owl hat. Love love love.) 

Bubbles on the back patio. A few nights after we brought Alice home from the hospital, we had this  magical night on the patio, watching Charlie blow bubbles into the dark. Listening to him tell us about the crescent moon. And rocking our baby girl.

Boy loves some bubbles.

bubble love
Yes, he's wearing his "My Dad is a Douche Bag" t-shirt from Uncle J-Dogg. See section regarding my laundry issues above and you'll understand why we had to dig this out of the trenches.

bubble love

We get tired and a little sullen. So it becomes time for "my fave-or-ittttt Woody pjs".


Alice is getting a little needier, a little fussier. And when she looks around, she has this startled suspicious look in her eyes.

Maybe because her brother decided to pepper her with Spidey stickers.

Spidey sticker

She took it in stride.

Speaking of stride, I started running again. I'm not fast or graceful but damnit, I try really hard. This is me, post-run, holding Alice. Not the best photo of me but I love her expression. And how well she's holding her head up.

mama + Alice

Spending time in the sun when we can. Just letting the mess of the house, the running to-do list, the everything fall away while we hold Alice and play basketball with Charlie.

sun bathing & tattoos

The plan for this week is to get the back patio cleaned up, order some new furniture for that space, and prepare to sit under these lights, sipping wine, rocking the baby, with Rich's folks. They arrive Saturday and we are really excited to have family here again.

night light

Hope your New Year is kicking off right. Ours sure is.

the Phees

creepy blue dinosaur

Just before Christmas, we accompanied the Morad family to Knott's Berry Farm to see Santa. Conveniently, adjacent to the Santa line, were these "hover at eye level" balloons.

blue dinosaur

Both Charlie and Giulietta had to have one.

Knott's Berry Farm & the balloons
So the balloon comes home and is promptly abused by Charlie. Sand dumped on his head, arms ripped off, kicked in the dinosaur balls. The whole 9 yards.

blue dinosaur

blue dinosaur

blue dinosaur

We were sure it wouldn't last a day through Charlie's abuse. We were wrong. It lasted over a week, stalking us throughout the house.

blue dinosaur

At 3 am when I flipped the light on in the bathroom, there it was, hovering above the toilet. In the morning, as Rich and I are watching the morning news, it creeps around the Christmas tree. At one point, it surprised Rich in the kitchen, prompting him to squeal and yell "holy shit this dinosaur has to die".

And it did. One week after he came to our home, when Charlie was playing at the babysitters, the dinosaur met his maker. I'm not going to lie and say we didn't enjoy taking that steak knife to this sucker.